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Humuhumu's Week of Geek Chic Days 2 & 3 [20121210|11:06]
Mad Scientess Jane Expat
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Did I mention that the week of geek chic wouldn't be contiguous? I guess that's fairly obvious now. I have time to do about one creative/fun thing per day while Humuhumu is sleeping, and taking a photo with my proper camera isn't always it. We have managed two more days, however, and the pictures are behind the cut.






I've been meeting up with a few of the mums from my NCT course every Wednesday afternoon. We go to a cafe in a garden centre, which may seem like an odd choice until you know that:

  • It has big comfy sofas with space around them for prams and car seats.
  • There is a lovely girl at the counter who always encourages us to have cake. (I don't need encouragement to have cake.)
  • The cake is delicious and served in generous slices.
  • It's £1.40 for a pot of tea that yields at least three cups.
  • The toasted sandwiches are excellent if you've missed lunch.
  • Those of us who are breastfeeding can do so in comfort.*


I'm not an exceptionally social person, so this and one other visit are just about all I need during the week. When the bloke asks what we talked about, I often find it difficult to remember. At our last meeting, Humuhumu was being fussy. I couldn't get her to feed, she didn't want to be burped and she didn't need a nappy change. (It turned out she just wanted a cuddle.) Frustrated, I told her, "I don't understand you!" Another mum said, "Oh, it's so good to hear someone else say that." I think that sums up why it's helpful and why we're never there for less than two hours, even if the last bit of it is mostly sitting quietly or tending to our babies.

This same mum is the one who tries to get her baby and mine to interact. It would never have occurred to me to do that (See: not particularly social). I think putting Humuhumu into nursery for a day or two a week as soon as she is at least partially weaned will be the right thing to do, lest I raise a strange little hermit. She may turn out to be a strange little hermit anyway, but I'd like that to be her choice and not an imposition of my introversion.

* Interesting facts about our group: There were eight mums on my NCT course. Of those eight, three gave birth naturally. Only two are still exclusively breastfeeding, including me - and the other person who's breastfeeding also gave birth naturally. For various reasons, we're also the only ones who had immediate skin-to-skin contact with our babies post-birth.
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[User Picture]From: thekumquat
2012-12-10 12:42 (UTC)
Love the geek baby fashion! (Quatling, please note use of maps!)
I spent lots of time in a local bar-restaurant that was usually deserted in the afternoons, for similar reasons. Now I'm looking for safe indoor places to crawl in the winter... the deserted upstairs at the V&A is worth the travel!
More of a mix with our NCT group, including two unplanned homebirths out of 7! Quatlet was a very strong latcher despite no skin to skin for over 4 hours, firstly while I threw up for an hour, then he stopped breathing when given to me and got resusitated and a trip to SCBU. I then found help outside hospital hard to find - seeking it was a full time job. Worked in the end though.
Quatling got latched after only 2 hours of me chundering and D held her during that - all much easier when I knew how to make it work.
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[User Picture]From: nanila
2012-12-14 15:31 (UTC)
Upstairs at the V&A is most definitely noted, as it's very close to my work.

Two unplanned home births! I've heard of that with second or third babies, but not with first babies. Wow. And I thought Humuhumu was an eager baby.

It's good to hear an anecdote that contradicts our small sample group's experiences, as everyone was becoming convinced that not having skin-to-skin was THE reason their babies wouldn't latch. Also there was quite mixed reaction to the help available in hospital and afterward - some people thought it was good and others felt uncomfortably pressured. (Sorry to hear about the puking - that sounds horrific, especially when you're so ready for a nice peaceful lie-down.)
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[User Picture]From: cosmiccircus
2012-12-10 13:33 (UTC)
Those are hilarious clothes!
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[User Picture]From: nanila
2012-12-14 15:23 (UTC)
Yes indeed. If they made sleep suits, she'd be wearing ThinkGeek stuff pretty much exclusively. ;)
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[User Picture]From: nanila
2012-12-14 15:25 (UTC)
Aw, thank you. I don't always interpret her signals correctly (e.g. is that the poo face or the I-need-a-cuddle face?) but I'm trying.
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[User Picture]From: nanila
2012-12-14 15:25 (UTC)
It keeps getting cuter, too!
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[User Picture]From: mysti77
2012-12-16 13:54 (UTC)
"This same mum is the one who tries to get her baby and mine to interact. It would never have occurred to me to do that (See: not particularly social). I think putting Humuhumu into nursery for a day or two a week as soon as she is at least partially weaned will be the right thing to do, lest I raise a strange little hermit. She may turn out to be a strange little hermit anyway, but I'd like that to be her choice and not an imposition of my introversion."

She won't really interact this young so your instinct won't be to try to get her to be social.

From quite young she will be interested in faces, touching, pulling, putting in her mouth and this won't be limited to toys so she may end up munching on another babies toes. Then they will start to do something called 'parallel play' which means they will play side by side happily but not really with each other. Then around 2 (could be earlier or later) they may start to do things like engage in a game of chase or play house/cooking etc and with each other. And all the while during this age most don't like to share either so still not the best at social interaction. BUT this is all normal and natural progression and if you just do as you're doing, be social with mums who have babies the same age and just leave the let them be they will do it all for themselves without you needing to do anything at all :)
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[User Picture]From: nanila
2012-12-16 19:00 (UTC)
Have I mentioned lately how grateful I am to be able to benefit from your experience? :) I really appreciate it. I worry - as I imagine lots of mums do - that I may not be providing enough stimulation, or the wrong kind, or too much. It's good to hear from someone who's been there that it's okay, you're doing it right. Thank you.
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